Dr. Kevin Leman’s book Have a New Husband by Friday makes some pretty big claims. Is it really possible to “change his attitude, behavior, and communication in 5 days”?

Leman’s commonsense plan begins with understanding the differences between men and women. He insists that one of the main problems in marriages today is that gender differences aren’t understood or respected.

Leman then lets women in on some secrets: men need to be respected, needed, and fulfilled. If those needs are met, most husbands will bend over backward trying to please their wives, Leman contends.

Leman encourages women, “observe your male creature in his environment” to find out what makes him tick, looking at his background, family, and the way he was raised.

Leman explores the subject of communication —the way he does it, the way she does it, and how to meet in the middle. “Give him the Cliffs-Notes, not the whole enchilada,” says Leman.

Sex is a subject that can’t be avoided when talking about marriage, and Leman believes that “a couple’s satisfaction with their marriage is revealed in how healthy their sex life is.” Leman encourages, “Take a risk. Step out of your comfort zone. Surprise him.”

Over all, Leman says, “Treat him as your hero, and he’ll act like it.”

Leman’s plan for a happy marriage is simple—each member must put the other member’s needs above their own— but women have to get the ball rolling, because “he wants to be a good husband. He wants to please you. But he doesn’t know how to do that. He needs your help.”

Leman is quick to say that not every marriage is this simple. Abuse, addiction, and psychological issues change the game, and no woman should put up with being a door mat for a man who refuses help.

Leman employs Christian marriage principles without preaching. An excellent book for any wife or woman with marriage in her future.